In the latter half of 2016, a pair of University of Washington sociologists presented the results of their new research which suggests that March is the peak month for divorce. Their data showed that divorce filings consistently peaked in the month following the winter holidays.
Given this, family law attorneys — whether they are in Seattle, Denver, or in another city — should have their hands full this month. What are the common reasons married couples file for a divorce, though? And how can they make it a child-centered one?
Make Cool-Headed Decisions
Married couples file for divorce for a variety of reasons. It could be because of financial problems, infidelity, substance or alcohol abuse, and physical or mental abuse. It could also be a case of simple incompatibility. Whatever the reason, however, talk it out as a couple first. Avoid making decisions when emotions are high.
Always Put the Children First
Divorce is not only a fragile time for you and your spouse. Your children, who are caught in the middle, will also find it difficult to adjust to the situation. With that said, you must work together as parents to help them cope with it.
First, make a conscious effort to both stay involved in the children’s life. You can raise them together without actually being together; just show that you both support and want to your children to spend time with them.
Second, keep any arguments away from the children as they could blame themselves and carry the guilt over the split in them. Communicate in a civil manner and avoid using them as a messenger to your ex.
Finally, steer clear of any insults and snide remarks you may have about one another. Show respect for the children’s other parent, and, if you have nothing nice to say, just don’t say anything at all. It might make your children feel obligated to take sides.
If you and your spouse are splitting up, do so in a way that minimizes the negative impact on your children. A divorce will undoubtedly affect the family’s dynamics, but making it children-centered allows you to give them the positive future they deserve.